The way that We-Vibe’s Rave landed its spot in my arsenal is pretty stereotypical. I had a date with my best friend – in a sex toy shop in Manhattan. Back in July 2017, so about 2.5y ago. Honestly felt much longer than that, but my receipt proved me wrong.
I scavenged the rather large store looking for something relatively quiet, usable in the shower, and rechargeable. The friendly shopkeepers dropped several suggestions, and eventually the Rave caught my interest. T’was advertised as a G-Spot vibe, and I, like almost every other lady out there, needed to figure out what exactly was so mystical about that bit of my body which I couldn’t reach with my fingers.
I also wanted a wand, something I had heard was godsend for clit play. I ended up with [LELO’s Smart Wand Medium], which was also advertised as quiet, waterproof, rechargeable. Bestie ended up with the Original Hitachi Magic Wand. She still uses it regularly. Unfortunately, I can’t say the same about both of my purchases (Looking at you [Lelo Smart Wand Medium]).
What's in the Box
In the store, several things attracted me to the We-Vibe Rave. Supposedly quiet (couldn’t hear it over the music playing in the store unlike other candidates). Rumbly vibrations (didn’t really know what those were back then). Its asymmetry was appealing to handle, look at, and was advertised as “[making] finding your G-Spot effortless”.
My fingers are short, and I have a hard time reaching said G-Spot. Since my privacy was non-existant, I had to stick to the shower; I still do. Splashproof, rechargeable, body-safe requirements, check. Basically sounded like the perfect toy. I went home hyped and excited as hell.
To be splashproof, the We-Vibe Rave has a charging port that makes me nervous every time I have to charge it. I hate this charging port type. Yes, hate. The charging pin makes me feel like I’m skewering the poor thing. Am I the only one that feels this way?
Every vibrator that requires me to do this to charge it makes me uneasy. We need to move on from impaling our waterproof/splashproof vibrators to using magnet types instead. Please. Even like 2.5y later, I feel anxious whenever I have to press the charging pin, hard, penetrate through the somewhat questionable membrane and aim for what feels like the vibrator’s G-Spot – just to get the Rave to charge. Finding the G-Spot was supposed to be the vibrator’s job, not mine, mind you.
- ● On/Off: center button (2sec) or + button to turn it on.
- ● Increase/Decrease intensities: +/- buttons, respectively
- ● Light blinking: charging
- ● Light steady: charged
- ● Light slow blinking: low battery
We-Connect App Functions
- ● Pair: Turn on Rave (middle button or + button), click ‘Connect Toy’, wait ~10-15sec
- ● Reset: Only from within app (unlike with Melt, which you can reset with the toy itself)
We-Connect App notes
Some people may not have compatible phones. It sucks, but it’s true. If you want to try and use an emulator on your PC like BlueStacks, then you need to have the We-Connect app installed but closed before you try anything. Open the link with your choice of browser, let it run. If you have the We-Connect app open before trying to use the link, it bugs out.
If you have phones compatible with the app, you’re pretty much in the clear. Also, you can’t take screenshots from within the We-Connect App – a bit of a cockblock, but I appreciate the app’s attempts to do it nonetheless. Better to have both parties safe. That is…. unless you’re running a rooted device or on an emulator, as we did to show you into the app. You’re welcome.
Once you’ve paired the We-Vibe Rave with your phone, navigate to “Current Session”. Select the person icon in the app at the top, click connect a partner, and you will be given a link which you need to give to your partner.
It really likes going through WhatsApp, but you can just select the message, then cut and paste it to your choice of communication method like text message or LINE, but We-Connect really seems to prefer that for some reason. The app will keep your phone awake while it's focused; screen won't time out/turn off unless you hit the off button or swap to another app.
This is where the magic happens. You can move the blue waves up and down to increase/decrease intensity. You can also swipe left/right to shuffle through the patterns. Tapping anywhere on the interactable area pauses whatever is going on, plays whenever you tap again.
I'm not sure what the purpose of the play/pause button is if I can just do that, but to each their own. At the top you can toggle between the vibration screen (two hearts) and the integrated chat. If you receive a message in chat while in the vibration screen, it'll display part of it in a tiny pop-up.
When you or your partner want to create vibration patterns in the app, you can't exactly "create" your own (like with [Lush 2]). It's more like "mix n' match" the patterns you like.
In this screen, you can insert pre-programmed patterns that came with the vibrator, change intensity (0-15) and select their duration (1s-2min).
I want to believe you can add as many as you like, but you can see how many I tested. You can also scroll through the ones you've selected/modified if you run out of space, so you're not limited to that.
Each pre-made pattern has its own settings (eg. 1st pattern, intensity 1, duration 1 - then 2nd pattern, intensity 13, duration 2min). You can re-arrange them by tap & dragging the individual patterns you dropped in. You can also delete them by tapping the hamburger menu.
I can't say I like the patterns too much - I never did, so they don't matter to me, but I do suppose that these could be used smartly to tease and create build-up over time. But... to actually reach orgasm? Steady is a requirement for me.
My first impressions with the We-Vibe Rave were pretty bad because I didn’t know my body that well. Back in 2017, I was completely [anorgasmic], I had no idea how to reach or locate my G-Spot, and I expected that this vibrator would somehow do my job for me, find it, and solve [all my anorgasmia problems]. I was disappointed because I didn’t know my own anatomy that well, despite knowing theory and diagrams inside out, and I had set my expectations way too high. This toy was not, is not, and will never be a cure-all if you don’t know your own body.
My first trial was in the shower, after I had spent some time trying to turn myself on and get wet enough to try. I hadn’t bought any lube back then – not because I didn’t need it, but because I thought it was pointless and a waste of money. I now know that I love the feeling of lube, and I buy loads of that stuff – I use it whether I need it or not, simply because I find that lube by itself feels good.
If you’re expecting a squishy vibrator, you can take those expectations and drop them in the local water fountain along with your loose change – the We-Vibe Rave, like almost every other silicone vibrator, isn’t squishy at all. I struggled a little to get the We-Vibe Rave in, as small as it was (1.22in) – the asymmetry and hard edges were a little difficult to adapt to.
But once the Rave was actually past my pubic bone, things got easier, better. I toyed with the different angles, twisting, turning, and thrusting the toy around, pressing it where I thought my G-Spot was back then, and thought “eh, I guess it’s alright; nothing special.” I over-hyped myself and wondered if buying the We-Vibe Rave was a mistake. Now I know that I wasn’t pressing it against my G-Spot; I had been inserting it too far and that felt mundane to say the least.
I also learned that [my body could care less about patterns], despite being very entertained by them in the store mere hours ago. I walked out of the shower without an orgasm that night. And many consequential attempts didn’t do much better. It wasn’t until two years later that I figured out how to locate my G-Spot and to give it the attention it had been missing.
So, the We-Vibe Rave is advertised as a G-Spot vibe. And… I wanted and expected it to be a magical ‘find my G-Spot for me’ device, and ‘cure my anorgasmia while you’re at it’ device. It wasn’t as “effortless” as I had expected it to be, based on the advert I saw back then. I learned all too quickly that it takes time to learn one’s body, and that fervently thrusting a vibrator into myself without studying oneself yields little to no results.
The outcome? 2 years of kinda disappointed masturbation sessions – until one day, something clicked, something felt a little bit different, and I paid attention to it. Mi’loves, if you haven’t found your G-Spot yet, and want to use the We-Vibe Rave to try and find it, you can, but it may not be as much of a cakewalk as one may expect based on a certain advert.
Some 2 years after buying the We-Vibe Rave, things started to feel better than just “meh”. I mean, once I found my G-Spot, figured out what kind of pressure it liked, the We-Vibe Rave definitely became something to 'rave' about. The vibrations are strong, travel nice and deep, through my G-Spot, and I love them dearly. This, when mixed with a pressure-wave toy creates magic between my thighs, and I’m so happy I didn’t throw it out. It has become one of the few vibrators that I actually reach for.
Can I cum with the We-Vibe Rave? As much as I enjoy Rave’s rumbly vibrations, it isn’t enough to finish me off on its own. Yes, I can drag an orgasm out of myself, but only with something really good up on my clit. Pressure-wave toys help a lot, [wands] sometimes do the job, but not always. I can’t say I’ve ever climaxed with the Rave on my clit and something else within me. To those of you who don’t have a hard time with orgasm: this vibrator can only be described as a dream come true.
G-Spot worship aside, the We-Vibe Rave’s “sensually-sculpted” edges offer very good pinpoint stimulation to the clit, nipples, and to my own surprise, my cervix, which learned to sometimes like the edge that is at the very tip of the toy. I like the handle’s angle. Thrusting this toy, applying pressure to my G-Spot, and even grinding upon it on my mattress doesn’t tire out my wrist because I don’t have to angle it – it’s already angled for me.
Over the course of 2.5y, the rumbly vibrations have remained wonderfully rumbly, yes – however, it does seem like the motor is beginning to struggle and make more noise than it did initially. When it's inside me, sometimes I wonder if my vagina is strangling it, based on the sounds it produces. It’s no longer as quiet as I remember it being in the store (thanks, music), and the motor’s vibrations feel as if it were tired from running an exhausting marathon.
What it Feels Like
The We-Vibe Rave feels like a satin-smooth, inflexible rod. There are some flexible vibrators out there, yes, but this is not one of them. The vibrations travel nice and deep because they’re rumbly, not buzzy (buzzy ones would be superficial instead of deep). Epiphora wove together an in-depth article on the topic in case you’re interested in the differences.
Comparisons to Other Toys
I can only compare this vibrator to the [Womanizer DUO] because the DUO apparently has the same motor and similar (not same) bulbous-ness to the We-Vibe Rave. The [Womanizer DUO] has a talent when it comes to pulling orgasms out of me, and it’s the only toy I own that can do it solo.
Even if it's the only toy that can do it by itself, it still takes well over an hour, which is exhausting. The [Womanizer DUO] costs $219, and if the We-Vibe Rave is $120, you can simply buy a Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation for $50 OR LELO Sona for $70 and save a nice chunk of cash while getting a similar sensation. The only reason I'd aim for the [DUO] instead (in this case) would be to get a single toy instead of two.
With the [DUO], you can’t thrust the toy without losing the seal on the clit, so you may just be better off with two toys instead of one. In terms of rumbliness, I don’t really have that many vibrators in my arsenal to compare to. I’ve heard from multiple sources that the [We-Vibe Tango] is the gold standard when it comes to rumbly vibrations, but I don’t own one; I can’t compare.
None of my other vibrators (sans the [Womanizer DUO], which I classify as a rabbit) can begin to compare to the Rave. Other vibrators I own can be similar in strength, but they get buzzy – and they get buzzy fast. Not really worth mentioning.
We-Vibe Rave is relatively powerful. Not nearly as powerful as Wands, per se, but still powerful nonetheless, even 2.5y after I originally bought it. It does seem as if the strength from the motor is beginning to wane, though, and it sometimes makes strangled noises when I clench around it with my kegel muscles. Graphic below is from We Vibe Rave's website.
The vibration patterns in the app are the same as the defaults that come installed with the vibrator out of box.
This G-Spot vibrator is quiet, but it’s not “whisper-quiet” – especially not after 2.5y of play. I feel like it used to be quieter, but as mentioned before, with time, the motor may be starting to strain. Can't be heard outside the shower, but can be heard from beneath the covers.
The design is okay. I brought up my distaste for the “stab me to charge me” charging port type earlier, won’t go into that again. The buttons are kinda small – even for my very small hands and fingers – I wish they were bigger. If they were bigger, it’d be easier to distinguish them from one another without looking as well.
Not too fond of the fact that to turn Rave off, I need to hold down the middle (patterns) button instead of the – button. I’ve found myself accidentally starting the patterns while trying to turn it off, and then having to cycle through all of them to get back to the constant vibration. Again, I hate patterns. I've never climaxed from pattern use. They’re just a nuisance to me, so being forced to cycle through them all when I simply want to turn the toy off is annoying.
Orgasms, believe it or not, are awesome with the We-Vibe Rave. They only happen with pressure-wave toys. It took me 2 years to learn to orgasm with this vibrator, and it was worth the wait. If you can climax without much effort, this toy is amazing. If you struggle to cum, this toy is nice. Just nice.
I don’t squirt with the We-Vibe Rave often, but when I do, it’s a fucking tsunami. 10/10, only the showerhead can compare – and yes, my showerhead is absolutely legendary – it does a better job than any of my meager collection of Wands.
The We-Vibe Rave is worth it, despite all the complaints I discussed throughout this review. When I first bought it, I was very unfamiliar with my own body – which resulted in me over-hyping myself, then letting myself down when the vibrator didn’t solve problems it physically couldn’t have. This is one of my favorites in terms of vibrators, as it’s ridiculously rumbly and does a decent job with long distance play.
- R U M B L E S
- Waterproof, silicone, ok battery
- Long Distance Relationship / app compatible
- Need to play "find the vibrator's G-Spot" to charge. Feels as if I need to stab the toy.
- Louder & weaker than when I first bought it.
- App is a bit unstable, may be difficult for some to connect.